Forgiving each other is one of the most important life tasks.  It allows us to transform and heal pain at the deepest levels. Forgiveness brings inner peace and inner joy to everyday life.   It brings lightness, wellbeing and freedom to our souls.

In my experience, forgiving others first is the key to being forgiven.  How can we expect forgiveness from others if we have not fully committed and successfully done this work ourselves?  Forgiving others first is the highest expression of personal commitment to our health, happiness, relationships, finances, businesses and more.

When we forgive others first, our hearts open widely…  … Poof-Whoosh!    We are completely enveloped and become Pure Love.  Forgiving others first flows into the Greatest Love. 

Forgiving others first is Great Service. It allows others to forgive us more easily.

And, the Circle Continues….

There are many ways to help others.  Sometimes we just need to figure out which way is best.

On my way to my office this morning, I was met with the agonized cries of a woman in distress.  She was across the street, sitting outside the hospital in the Emergency bay, repeating, “Help me! Help me! Help me!” I looked at her, and as our eyes met, she stopped.  I felt my heart open as I acknowledged her.  I felt enormous compassion for her as her anguish was palpable.

I was not in a position to take away her pain but I wanted to stop and let her know that I heard her.  Mental distress, whatever its source, is very painful. 

For a moment in time, I held a stranger’s heart from across the street.  I am not sure whether she felt my heart.  I hope so.  I also hope that she felt better as the day went on.

It opens my heart with the Greatest Compassion when I understand that the reactions of angry people are only a mirror to their pain. 

Just pause. Breathe. Move forward. 

Understand we are all trying our best. We are more similar than we are different. 

There are two tools that I use to create my own good luck.  One is having no attachment to the outcome; the other is having gratitude for the outcome – whatever it is.

I was recently travelling and my flight arrived almost an hour late.  I had only a few minutes to leave the plane, get my luggage and catch my ride.  It was certainly impossible.

I began silently repeating the phrase “no attachment”.  Doing this released my stress and stopped me from worrying because my mind and heart were focused on this positive mantra.  I felt confident that whatever happened, things were going to be okay.

As it turned out, my ride showed up 5 minutes after I arrived at the passenger pick up area!  It was 40 minutes later than the schedule time!  It seemed like a happy miracle.

Whoosh! Gratitude washed over me as I began to silently repeat “thank you”.  I felt extremely blessed, lucky and joyful as I rode to my destination. 

When we choose our thoughts, we create our experiences.  Try it today!  It works easily!

Life is very busy!  It is extraordinary how many things we do every day.  The lists that I make help keep me organized and allow me to do things efficiently and effectively. 

I absolutely love my busy life.  It makes me happy.  But, there are times when I feel tired and stressed.  I recently learned a magical and transformative practice that I want to share.  I learned to pause and open my heart.  The simple action of asking my heart to open gets me instant results.  It creates a sense of connection with others, my work and allows me to move forward in my day with ease.

Sometimes the simplest wisdom can have a great impact.  Now that I know this, I want to practice it more and more.  Practice pausing and opening your heart, too!  Then, let me know your experience.

Circumstances and challenges in life are very real. Everyone experiences them in some way. Often, they are beyond our control. But what does this really mean? It means we need to do what we can and let go of the rest. We need to pay attention to what we can control. For example, we can control our responses. We can control our perspective. We can control our expectations. We can control our emotions. We can control our behaviour. We can control our recovery.

Life does not always give us what we want, but we have control of who we are.

In 2019, it is important to stay solid and to have unshakable hearts. It is time for us to get back to basics: to laugh more; to be respectful; to have hope; to be kind to ourselves and each other; to be more flexible and resilient in our responses to life; to hold love and forgiveness in our hearts. At every turn, we have choices. We can react or respond.
Learning to respond differently sometimes takes practice. If you are motivated and want to learn new ways of being, write a comment below and let me know.

 

 

 

This holiday season, I wish people would give each other the following:

 

Their Kindness         Their Caring        Their Patience      Their Love   Their Integrity

Their Wisdom          Their Generosity of Spirit         Their Humour and Laughter       

Their Forgiveness      Their Compassion      Their Honour        Their Happiness

Their Gratitude      Their Help       Their Guidance     Their Friendship    Their Heart    

Their Gentleness             Their Creativity           Their Peace       Their Harmony

Their Optimism         Their Flexibility            Their Hope           Their Time

Their Good Wishes    Their Creativity         Their Beauty          Their Light

 

When we give of ourselves, our goodness shines through and everyone benefits.

We need these qualities from each other so much more than the things that we purchase and give.

What a beautiful world it would be…!

Blessings for the Holidays!

 

 

I recently had the experience of someone in a helping role behave in argumentative and unkind ways.  The details of the experience are not important but I need to say her behavior was surprising. It shocked me to know that someone in a professional position would respond so unpleasantly.

I became quiet and observed.  When she was argumentative, I softly spoke the truth.  After she left, I called the agency to speak to a coordinator about the situation.  I was assured that a supervisor would speak to the helper about the agency’s policy.

After my phone call, I continued to feel sad and unsettled.  I needed to do something more!  So, I began to send the helper my love, forgiveness and compassion.   In my heart, I deeply believe that these positive qualities can heal and transform relationships and so much more.

It took some time for me to feel better, but it was well worth the effort.  For me, opening my heart with love, forgiveness and compassion was the best way to respond.  It helped me feel balanced, happy and strong again.

I am beyond grateful for these tools.  They are easy and effective!  I certainly want to continue to have a peaceful heart and peaceful mind in every part of my life.  🙂

Are you interested in learning tools so you can heal and let go?  It’s easy!  Please message me, if you do!

 

 

Your true voice is inside your heart.  When people speak with their hearts, it comes from a place of the Greatest Love (Da Ai) and Greatest Wisdom (Da ZhiHui)

When we speak with love, we communicate our inner and outer beauty, our essence, our sincerity. It feels deeply expansive. It has a quality, frequency and vibration that heals and melts away our blockages.

When we use our own voice in love, people can feel our hearts.  Poof-whoosh!  Something magical happens…  A connection is made. Greatest Love and Greatest Wisdom are exchanged.

Our true voices carry humility, compassion and kindness.  Earnest, unconditional, heart-touching service is the result.

Be courageous and speak your truth with sincerity and love.  I will hear you and listen with my heart. I will honour you as you communicate the wisdom you hold.

 

I was on my way to work a couple of weeks ago. I kept pace with a young man for a bit but I slowed down because I needed to turn and did not want to cut in front of him.

To my surprise he slowed down as well and made the same turn I did! We were heading to the same door. For me, it was a happy coincidence!

The young man opened the door for me then, to my surprise, he began walking in the opposite direction. On my goodness! This young man intentionally went out of his way to be kind.

We waved to each other, as I smiled, and said thank you to him. He noticed my surprise, laughed and smiled back.

I had a very happy heart all day. I think we both did.

It is still a beautiful world where people impress me!